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November
The warm, moist weather over the last week has caused fog, rain and drizzle in the city area. To some it is quite dreary, but to others there is a quiet beauty in the weather.
The group has met several times since we have returned from the trip. Everett has shown up a couple of times, but has allowed his work to interfere with his attendance. Nothing has been heard of Jim. Jeff has decided to get together with Victoria again, back at her house. After the post nuptial agreement is signed, he will move in and work to create a marriage that will last for a life time. He and Victoria are fine tuning the analytical aspect of their relationship to ensure that the relationship will grow. The emotional part of life that Jeff has so enjoyed with Nora has been put aside for now. I don't know how Jeff will achieve the balance that he is seeking by continuing on the analytical, business like motions that caused his marriage to come to sudden stop several years ago.
Peter, upon arriving home, experienced the sensation that his wife was not present in their relationship. After several weeks of discussion, they have managed to understand each other, their feelings and frustrations.
Eric; their son has been at several Thursday afternoons to share his dad's life. Eric is a very pleasant and mature young man.
Warren has been working for several weeks in Ontario, completing some consulting work that he started last year. He has spent some time with Sally, on his terms without enabling her confusion and anxiety over the renovations in her house. Warren has not gone for lunch with his enchanting hair dresser.
Rob returned from the sailing trip quite exhilarated and tired; should have taken a couple days in Victoria to relax. Cory could have handled any of the work that came from his company. Seeing and getting reacquainted with Susan was a very pleasurable experience. Work was quite hectic for a week, until things were caught up or delegated. Cory was pleased to see me and enjoyed the sweater he received. Dana expressed his pleasure at the gifts he received for his birthday and from the island. He turned 24 in Oct. Work is going well for him. He is quite busy. He is getting a good reputation in the industry and among the crews. Linda and he are getting along well. I understand that he bought her a ring of some significance in October.
October brought a very low mood to Rob, a depression that is very evident every year at this time. With knowledge of the effects and parameters of the mood he was able to exist throughout the month without any major troubles. He was appreciative of Susan's help during the month. She has a kind way and wise appreciation of people's needs. She certainly has added to his quality of life.
Cory continues to experience a level of poverty that is frustrating to him, He is following his dream of creating designs, but the monetary rewards are slow to come. Trevor continues to try to create a position in Atlanta but the efforts are slow. Hopefully, Cory’s dream of working in the states and enjoying the change of life will come about soon, and I will miss him.
Cory, in his effort to understand his childhood illness had requested information from his doctor. To his surprise he learned of the some personal information about his father and mother. He had the courage to ask me about this event. His questions were reasonable and enlightened. He passed on this knowledge to his mom, and allowed her to fill him in on her understanding of the event. I have suggested that he tell her that she could contact Dana if she wanted. Her relationship with Dana would grow from this contact. If she doesn't want to I will discuss the event with Dana. With the information I will post an item on the appropriate board to allow the boy to contact the father and mother. It is with a certain amount of anticipation and anxiety that I allow this event to occur. What's the worse thing that can happen, nothing, but many fine things can come of this occurrence. Cory certainly would like to meet his brother. Hopefully Dana is of the same mind. Linda, I hope is comfortable with the events as they are occurring.
November - large snow flakes are drifting to earth.
White and fluffy, the cool air mass has turned the rain to snow and winter. People’s spirits will brighten with the new clean snow and the anticipation of Christmas. The grayness and brown earth will be covered to reappear in the spring.
An unusual turn of events at the Thursday gathering; both Jim and Hector showed up. Rob, Peter and Warren arrived at the café in that order. We caught up on our lives since we had not been together for several weeks. Peter and his wife had purchased a new car. Warren was helping in a project with a Governmental department. Rob discussed what was happening at work.
Hector arrived much earlier than usual. His situation has not changed much, although the level of stress has diminished a little. He is occupying the lower portion of the house while his wife is settled into the upper half. His job has settled down a little after the move to a new building. Having stated that things are unchanged, Hector passed on to us that his wife had made an offer to purchase a home and move out on her own. The down payment would have been Hector's payment from his parents representing his wife's share of the house they are currently living in. His contention is that they have been apart or separated as he sees it that the process of separation (divorce) has started. His reluctance to get advice from a lawyer is very evident. This decision is quite troubling to some of us. Hector does not want to be the “bad guy” in this situation.
About this time Jim wandered into the group. With a great deal of energy he settled into the group. Peter encouraged him to bring us up to date on his activities of the last 5 months. He shared with us that he and Cathy from Grimshaw had parted ways. Several weeks later, at a band gathering, he meet a girl he felt was almost perfect. Since she had to change addresses and look for a new place to stay, Jim suggested that she move into his place and rent a room. This was two or three weeks after they had meet. The relationship is considerably more than platonic at the moment.
Jim and Hector continued the discussion regarding the appearance of separation and the value of shared wealth between two parties that are together. Warren was an observer, while Peter pursued the discussion relative to Jim’s perfect new woman. Rob tried to keep up with the discussion and tried to understand what made Jim appear at this time. His comfort level with a new relationship, which has no discomfort, has made himself feel good about himself again. He is still excited about the chase that is occurring with this woman and has had no challenging thoughts about future entanglements. Soon it was 7:30 and everyone parted company.
Jeff and Everett did not make an appearance in the following week. Everett still ensuring his business does not allow him to consider what he is doing in life and Jeff had his children this week. This pre supposes that fact that he has not moved back into his old home.
The warm, moist weather over the last week has caused fog, rain and drizzle in the city area. To some it is quite dreary, but to others there is a quiet beauty in the weather.
The group has met several times since we have returned from the trip. Everett has shown up a couple of times, but has allowed his work to interfere with his attendance. Nothing has been heard of Jim. Jeff has decided to get together with Victoria again, back at her house. After the post nuptial agreement is signed, he will move in and work to create a marriage that will last for a life time. He and Victoria are fine tuning the analytical aspect of their relationship to ensure that the relationship will grow. The emotional part of life that Jeff has so enjoyed with Nora has been put aside for now. I don't know how Jeff will achieve the balance that he is seeking by continuing on the analytical, business like motions that caused his marriage to come to sudden stop several years ago.
Peter, upon arriving home, experienced the sensation that his wife was not present in their relationship. After several weeks of discussion, they have managed to understand each other, their feelings and frustrations.
Eric; their son has been at several Thursday afternoons to share his dad's life. Eric is a very pleasant and mature young man.
Warren has been working for several weeks in Ontario, completing some consulting work that he started last year. He has spent some time with Sally, on his terms without enabling her confusion and anxiety over the renovations in her house. Warren has not gone for lunch with his enchanting hair dresser.
Rob returned from the sailing trip quite exhilarated and tired; should have taken a couple days in Victoria to relax. Cory could have handled any of the work that came from his company. Seeing and getting reacquainted with Susan was a very pleasurable experience. Work was quite hectic for a week, until things were caught up or delegated. Cory was pleased to see me and enjoyed the sweater he received. Dana expressed his pleasure at the gifts he received for his birthday and from the island. He turned 24 in Oct. Work is going well for him. He is quite busy. He is getting a good reputation in the industry and among the crews. Linda and he are getting along well. I understand that he bought her a ring of some significance in October.
October brought a very low mood to Rob, a depression that is very evident every year at this time. With knowledge of the effects and parameters of the mood he was able to exist throughout the month without any major troubles. He was appreciative of Susan's help during the month. She has a kind way and wise appreciation of people's needs. She certainly has added to his quality of life.
Cory continues to experience a level of poverty that is frustrating to him, He is following his dream of creating designs, but the monetary rewards are slow to come. Trevor continues to try to create a position in Atlanta but the efforts are slow. Hopefully, Cory’s dream of working in the states and enjoying the change of life will come about soon, and I will miss him.
Cory, in his effort to understand his childhood illness had requested information from his doctor. To his surprise he learned of the some personal information about his father and mother. He had the courage to ask me about this event. His questions were reasonable and enlightened. He passed on this knowledge to his mom, and allowed her to fill him in on her understanding of the event. I have suggested that he tell her that she could contact Dana if she wanted. Her relationship with Dana would grow from this contact. If she doesn't want to I will discuss the event with Dana. With the information I will post an item on the appropriate board to allow the boy to contact the father and mother. It is with a certain amount of anticipation and anxiety that I allow this event to occur. What's the worse thing that can happen, nothing, but many fine things can come of this occurrence. Cory certainly would like to meet his brother. Hopefully Dana is of the same mind. Linda, I hope is comfortable with the events as they are occurring.
November - large snow flakes are drifting to earth.
White and fluffy, the cool air mass has turned the rain to snow and winter. People’s spirits will brighten with the new clean snow and the anticipation of Christmas. The grayness and brown earth will be covered to reappear in the spring.
An unusual turn of events at the Thursday gathering; both Jim and Hector showed up. Rob, Peter and Warren arrived at the café in that order. We caught up on our lives since we had not been together for several weeks. Peter and his wife had purchased a new car. Warren was helping in a project with a Governmental department. Rob discussed what was happening at work.
Hector arrived much earlier than usual. His situation has not changed much, although the level of stress has diminished a little. He is occupying the lower portion of the house while his wife is settled into the upper half. His job has settled down a little after the move to a new building. Having stated that things are unchanged, Hector passed on to us that his wife had made an offer to purchase a home and move out on her own. The down payment would have been Hector's payment from his parents representing his wife's share of the house they are currently living in. His contention is that they have been apart or separated as he sees it that the process of separation (divorce) has started. His reluctance to get advice from a lawyer is very evident. This decision is quite troubling to some of us. Hector does not want to be the “bad guy” in this situation.
About this time Jim wandered into the group. With a great deal of energy he settled into the group. Peter encouraged him to bring us up to date on his activities of the last 5 months. He shared with us that he and Cathy from Grimshaw had parted ways. Several weeks later, at a band gathering, he meet a girl he felt was almost perfect. Since she had to change addresses and look for a new place to stay, Jim suggested that she move into his place and rent a room. This was two or three weeks after they had meet. The relationship is considerably more than platonic at the moment.
Jim and Hector continued the discussion regarding the appearance of separation and the value of shared wealth between two parties that are together. Warren was an observer, while Peter pursued the discussion relative to Jim’s perfect new woman. Rob tried to keep up with the discussion and tried to understand what made Jim appear at this time. His comfort level with a new relationship, which has no discomfort, has made himself feel good about himself again. He is still excited about the chase that is occurring with this woman and has had no challenging thoughts about future entanglements. Soon it was 7:30 and everyone parted company.
Jeff and Everett did not make an appearance in the following week. Everett still ensuring his business does not allow him to consider what he is doing in life and Jeff had his children this week. This pre supposes that fact that he has not moved back into his old home.
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