A Mens' Group

The last few days were quiet.
The Month end work ended well.
The relaxed atmosphere of the commercial flight course is a pleasure for Rob. Reviewing the information and gaining an insight to some new aspects of flying is a pleasure for him.
Changes are apparent at the company Rob works for; with the logo change that highlights the new corporate name making the current company name a secondary product. The possible change in job positions, personnel and the new corporate outlook are all having an effect on the people in this division.
Susan is feeling a little off at the moment, the work situation at the office has perplexed her. She is questioning her loyalty to those around her and it is causing her some anguish.
Cory has settled into the finality that he must find some day to day work to supplement the money that is required to live.
Rob has managed to relax after the confusion of the weekend and loss of control; it was a minor fluctuation that has proved to provide an insight into his belief system.

November
Peter, Warren, Jeff and Rob were in attendance.
Peter was able to address a concern he had with a fellow worker during the week. After months of enduring comments about his work schedule by the co – worker, Peter took him aside and expressed his displeasure with the comments that were being made. He made it clear that further words to this end would not be tolerated. He said that he did it calmly and with no loss of energy and emotion but still made the point.
Jeff was in attendance after an absence of a month. Work, travel and the boys’ schedule prevented him from attending the previous meetings. He was feeling a little run down. He admitted to not taking care of himself by way of exercise, meditation and time alone, but felt that he was going to get back on track. His proposed action of moving back in with Victoria was questioned in a lively discussion regarding his continued relationship with Nora. This was a frank discussion that allowed Jeff to better understand his intentions in life. He has come to realize that he wants to relate to a woman on an emotional level and not on an analytical level. He is not sure that he can do this with Victoria, if she can do it or even if he wants to. Even thou he feels that he wants to exist with a woman on a "blue"(emotional level), he needs to have the "orange" analytical part of him to be an active part of any relationship. No comment of where Nora is in this situation. Jeff has continues to seek the truth about himself, and along with it a better understanding of himself and his place in this journey.
Warren shared the feeling that he was still involved with Sally because she still portrays the greatest challenge to him. If he can control himself around her and her activities, he can feel safe in his actions around other women that will be in his life.
Rob recounted the last several weeks of his life with the emotions and turn of events relating to Cory learning that he and Dana have an older brother. The group was quite shocked at this information and turn of events. It will be point of discussion over the next little while. Jeff was a little concerned until he understood that Rob would be open to allowing the older son locate both parents.

December
Much has happened in the past little while.
Finally, today we had a major dump of snow. Everything is white and clean. The air is crisp and cold.
Rob meet Susan for coffee, supper and then some shopping for Christmas gifts. The feelings were light and enjoyable.
Last Thursday, we met for supper with Dr. Joe.
Jeff postponed his eastern trip due to his uncle's sudden death, so was able to attend the supper. He stayed for a short time and then left for a family gathering. Everett, Peter, Warren Rob and Hector were also in attendance. The two and half hours went quickly as Dr. Joe reacquainted himself with all our activities. Dr. Joe filled us in on his travels to South Africa.
Everett stayed in Edmonton, to be able to attend the dinner; his work in Edson is just about finished. He has moved into his new home, is in good spirits and hopes to slow down his pace during the Christmas season.
Jeff shared with us his decision to cut off his ties with Nora and move back into his old home with Victoria. He said he would be doing this in the following week. Joe observed that Jeff still has his new home intact and waiting.
Peter was surprised and pleased by his wife's early arrival from school, an unusual event. She left work early to spend time with her husband, Peter and their son Eric.
Warren continues to work on a major consulting project for the Provincial government as an assistant. He is quite comfortable in this new role, less stress and less decision making, he shared. He chatted with Dr. Joe about his new found ability to allow Sally her freedom to make decisions regarding the house renovations.
Hector, as a single father, shared with us his frustration surrounding his older son's confrontational behaviors.
Rob's car had been stolen the previous night from his son's apartment building. Rob had been in Calgary attending an informational meeting for his company.
Rob had met with Nora at her request, the previous Friday for coffee and to serve as a listening post. Nora is still coming to terms that she is unable to let go of Jeff. After listening for a short period, Rob encouraged Nora to express what she wanted to occur for herself. Not what she thought Jeff should do, or what Victoria should do, but what Nora should do.
Nora was able to clarify his desires and wishes, her current situation and her need for congruent direction. She left less emotional than she arrived. Two days later, Sunday, Rob was informed by Nora that events had brought Jeff, Nora and Victoria together at Jeff's home. After several hours of emotional but controlled exchange of emotion, information and knowledge, an agreement was reached. Nora decided to take control of her life, get on with her life and let Jeff follow his wishes and desires to move in with Victoria and try to make their marriage work again.
The difference in each of us is apparent in how we view the emotional and physical movement in our environment. This lack of definite decision making by Jeff and Nora in what they want to do is very frustrating to me. Neither one wants to change the game they are playing. I see Jeff unable to move past his historical feelings of family, children and what society dictates for him. I feel that Nora has decided to hold on for dear life to something that she fears will never visit her again. She is very cunning and skillful. I am afraid to get caught in the middle, used by either of them and blamed for the problem. I am unsettled by being contacted by either one of them for fear of causing the situation to become worse. This is not where I want to end up.
I am a little apprehensive that Jeff has left a message that I call him at his office on Thursday.
Rob’s car was recovered by the Edmonton city police and the driver was arrested. No major damage was found on the car and should be returned soon