Sunday, July 31, 2005
Just Life
Wednesday, May 3
I went for my the yearly medical, hopefully with flying colors, well maybe, still have a few pounds to lose, my thought; not the doctor’s, his heart is in the correct place it seems. All parts are working with no cancer in any place that the doctor can find. I fell very relieved and happy. The week is moving along nicely.
I am feeling quite happy and relaxed. Have done some work for son's company to help him out.
I played squash with Warren yesterday, good thinking game but I had no power in the game because of the sore ribs. Warren is a good partner for playing indoor sports games. I will beat him at this game yet.
I should spend a little more time reading up on the strategy of the game.
Susan is feeling quite relaxed and spunky since she has had some sleep and time to herself. Her daughter, Holly, is back up north and the house is quiet again. Work is still quite hectic for her but she enjoys the challenge.
I spent an enjoyable hour with Shirley discussing her change in position at her company. She is starting to see that the change is manageable and with-in her ability to control and direct with out any inward feelings of guilt. She is seeing glimpses of her future, but is still unsure of her ability.
She has such a future in front of her that it is almost unimaginable to her at the moment.
After visiting the old company office again this week, I am more than relieved not to be working there at this time. The stress level has risen again, with the new demands that the company has created for the employees. It is an interesting company now that has been created by the multinational parent company. I wonder how much it is going to change in the near future. The American way has arrived in this city in the security area.
A letter arrived from VP of human resources in response to my second letter. It is time that I respond to the letter to move this situation along. I still don't know how long I will waste my waste my time by continuing with this confrontation.
Cheryl seems to have moved her personal life along with her discussion with Andrew. Hopefully he is being straight with her and is displaying the apparent signs of insecurity because of other anxieties. I sense that this is not what it seems to be.
I am looking forward to flying with Gerald on Friday. The weather forecast is looking good and Gerald seems to up to the flying. I will have to do the planning and flight preparations for the flight on Friday in spite of the fact that the plane has the GPS and all the necessary electronics.
I should get out too view Derek's house some time next week. It seemed nice when Cheryl and I fly over it on Sunday. The view from the home should be spectacular. I am sure that they are taking pictures of the development of their home.
Sunday, May 7
Another week has gone by quickly.
I passed my medical so I am fit to fly, both medically, emotionally and physically.
I completed some homes for my son, Cory. He has another one ready for him on Tuesday.
I sent off a letter to my old company’s VP in response to his letter about my quitting/being fired. It will probably be another month before I hear back from him. This should be the last bit of communication with the company if they do not offer a severance package.
My side is healing nicely without to much pain, except when I am laying down and then trying to get up.
Playing squash with Warren was invigorating, although I had no power, so I played a finesse game.
The group meeting discussion centered on Everett’s inability to manage his time and efforts. After his participation at a "Better your life" course over the weekend; he is starting to see the possibilities for what can be in the future.
Hector and Jeff did not show up. Hector is doing soccer things with his kids while Jeff is still “powering through” the problems in his life.
Susan has had a busy week with a couple of suppers with friends and then some shopping. We were invited over to Cheryl's place for drinks on Saturday night, Steph and some friends of Cheryl's were there also. We all had a good time, Susan got a little tipsy, by the time we had to leave, I was driving so I was careful with how much I had to drink. The hour was late so I took her home.
I am feeling a little sad that we did not spend some time alone together, but that seems to be the way it is turning out these days.
Sunday, she had to pick up her friend from the airport and she was going over to have supper with her dad.
I spent the day at Chapters reading and just relaxing.
Dana, my son, phoned with the latest news- he has hurt his knee but is continuing to work at anything that is available. He is going to have a doctor look at his knee in the near future. There is a possibility that he may need some minor surgery on his knee ligaments.
Spending so little time with Susan has made me a little sad. I am coming to terms with the fact that is the events that are just occurring and not some desire on her part to be on her own. This just goes back to the abandonment feelings that are still very prevalent. If she wishes more time for herself then so be it.
Cory and I discussed the current virus that is having an impact on the computers of the world this week.
JUNE 1 Thursday,
Well, it has been a while.
Life has continued with a few minor ups and downs.
I went through a week of depression. I recognized it and made sure that I did things that made the days go by.
Shared the event with Susan but perhaps not as well and openly as I should have, we had a talk during the week after to clear up a few things that were left in the air. It turned out alright, with a better understanding of how we cope with events in our lives.
The men’ group continues to meet; with Jeff and Jim still absent.
Jeff is working his way through his divorce and has decided that it would be better not to communicate with the group until it was over.
We have heard nothing from Jim in over three months.
Warren is spending some time rolling in the grass with Sally, and is feeling somewhat lonely at times. He is looking forward to sharing his life and time with someone, perhaps Sally.
Everett has made great steps in coming to terms with being himself and being comfortable with how he does things and how he interacts with his wife. He is working at not taking responsibility for her insecurities and confusion.
I spent a week feeling very sick with a cold after his depression. My body did not have enough energy to ward off a cold germ he picked up while visiting the old company’s office, small wander. The discussion between the company VP and myself have come to an end, with the goal of getting a reaction from the company accomplished.
Cory got the work for the large complex; it will stand him in good stead, with a possible three more units to be built.
I helped Derek build his new home along with the fellow who cut and designed the wood inner structure. Derek is getting quite concerned over the mistakes that are occurring in the construction of the house, his wife is taking it all in stride.
Susan and I were invited out to see the house last Saturday and partake in a Barbeque along with some of Derek's associates. Most of the couples, invited to the supper, worked together in the industry and it was quite evident the extent they were driven by their profession.
I will have lunch with Mother tomorrow.
Spent some time with Cheryl, she talked about her frustration with Andrew. He does not seem to be able to put her mind at ease in terms of his commitment to the relationship.
Dana's job seems to be going well; he says that he is getting in a great number of hours and some promotions, more responsibilities along with an increase in pay.
Cory is somewhat frustrated with the new management at the dealership, but will wait till he is on a benefit plan so he can get some dental work done before expressing it to his boss. I suggested that bad bosses are a great incentive to get educated and get a better job. So much for the day, more words later.
Tuesday, June 6
Last few days have been hot, sunny and windy, the weather has been great.
Had a good weekend. Friday was a quiet night; Susan had the evening with her friends.
Saturday was spent at a golf tournament with Derek; later on I had a look at how the construction of his home was progressing.
Spent the next day with Susan, fixed her garage door, had supper and then went for a walk down by the river valley.
Weather and company were great.
I missed Dana's phone call.
I'm feeling quite relaxed at the moment with my life and all that is going on. Susan and I went to a book store on Sunday, I was able to pick up a two volume set on the history of my home town- 1890-19980, I will have to show it to Mom to see what she can remember of the times and perhaps bring back some memories. The boys should like the information about where they came from.
Warren had lunch with Jeff, but they spent the time talking business, no discussion about what is happening in Jeff's life.
I left a message on Nora's voice mail to see how she is getting on. No answer.
It is a bit of worry to me that Jeff has stayed away from the group this long. Warren is sure that he will return when he is comfortable. It surprises me that he thinks that he would be weak if he came to the meeting to talk about what is going on in his life. He is a very determined and singular man when it comes to doing things alone.
Cheryl is making her way through the relationship that she is having with Andrew, I don't know where it will end, but they are moving toward it. The situation with Cheryl being unsure of Andrew is not good for ether one of them. I hope that she gets some clarification soon. If Andrew is not doing any thing indiscreet, than Cheryl has to dig into why her insecurities are threatening her relationship with Andrew.
I saw Everett and his wife at their home for a short time on Monday; they seem to be at ease with each other. Their communication skills will stand them in good stead as they confront these new changes in their life.
Dana took some time off this last weekend to go to the lake with his girlfriend. They are coming out to the reunion in July as far as they know. It will be nice to see them. Cory is spending money on some new clothes, must mean that he has some extra spending cash. I will have to send out some more resumes and cover letters to the aviation companies that are of interest to me.
I went for my the yearly medical, hopefully with flying colors, well maybe, still have a few pounds to lose, my thought; not the doctor’s, his heart is in the correct place it seems. All parts are working with no cancer in any place that the doctor can find. I fell very relieved and happy. The week is moving along nicely.
I am feeling quite happy and relaxed. Have done some work for son's company to help him out.
I played squash with Warren yesterday, good thinking game but I had no power in the game because of the sore ribs. Warren is a good partner for playing indoor sports games. I will beat him at this game yet.
I should spend a little more time reading up on the strategy of the game.
Susan is feeling quite relaxed and spunky since she has had some sleep and time to herself. Her daughter, Holly, is back up north and the house is quiet again. Work is still quite hectic for her but she enjoys the challenge.
I spent an enjoyable hour with Shirley discussing her change in position at her company. She is starting to see that the change is manageable and with-in her ability to control and direct with out any inward feelings of guilt. She is seeing glimpses of her future, but is still unsure of her ability.
She has such a future in front of her that it is almost unimaginable to her at the moment.
After visiting the old company office again this week, I am more than relieved not to be working there at this time. The stress level has risen again, with the new demands that the company has created for the employees. It is an interesting company now that has been created by the multinational parent company. I wonder how much it is going to change in the near future. The American way has arrived in this city in the security area.
A letter arrived from VP of human resources in response to my second letter. It is time that I respond to the letter to move this situation along. I still don't know how long I will waste my waste my time by continuing with this confrontation.
Cheryl seems to have moved her personal life along with her discussion with Andrew. Hopefully he is being straight with her and is displaying the apparent signs of insecurity because of other anxieties. I sense that this is not what it seems to be.
I am looking forward to flying with Gerald on Friday. The weather forecast is looking good and Gerald seems to up to the flying. I will have to do the planning and flight preparations for the flight on Friday in spite of the fact that the plane has the GPS and all the necessary electronics.
I should get out too view Derek's house some time next week. It seemed nice when Cheryl and I fly over it on Sunday. The view from the home should be spectacular. I am sure that they are taking pictures of the development of their home.
Sunday, May 7
Another week has gone by quickly.
I passed my medical so I am fit to fly, both medically, emotionally and physically.
I completed some homes for my son, Cory. He has another one ready for him on Tuesday.
I sent off a letter to my old company’s VP in response to his letter about my quitting/being fired. It will probably be another month before I hear back from him. This should be the last bit of communication with the company if they do not offer a severance package.
My side is healing nicely without to much pain, except when I am laying down and then trying to get up.
Playing squash with Warren was invigorating, although I had no power, so I played a finesse game.
The group meeting discussion centered on Everett’s inability to manage his time and efforts. After his participation at a "Better your life" course over the weekend; he is starting to see the possibilities for what can be in the future.
Hector and Jeff did not show up. Hector is doing soccer things with his kids while Jeff is still “powering through” the problems in his life.
Susan has had a busy week with a couple of suppers with friends and then some shopping. We were invited over to Cheryl's place for drinks on Saturday night, Steph and some friends of Cheryl's were there also. We all had a good time, Susan got a little tipsy, by the time we had to leave, I was driving so I was careful with how much I had to drink. The hour was late so I took her home.
I am feeling a little sad that we did not spend some time alone together, but that seems to be the way it is turning out these days.
Sunday, she had to pick up her friend from the airport and she was going over to have supper with her dad.
I spent the day at Chapters reading and just relaxing.
Dana, my son, phoned with the latest news- he has hurt his knee but is continuing to work at anything that is available. He is going to have a doctor look at his knee in the near future. There is a possibility that he may need some minor surgery on his knee ligaments.
Spending so little time with Susan has made me a little sad. I am coming to terms with the fact that is the events that are just occurring and not some desire on her part to be on her own. This just goes back to the abandonment feelings that are still very prevalent. If she wishes more time for herself then so be it.
Cory and I discussed the current virus that is having an impact on the computers of the world this week.
JUNE 1 Thursday,
Well, it has been a while.
Life has continued with a few minor ups and downs.
I went through a week of depression. I recognized it and made sure that I did things that made the days go by.
Shared the event with Susan but perhaps not as well and openly as I should have, we had a talk during the week after to clear up a few things that were left in the air. It turned out alright, with a better understanding of how we cope with events in our lives.
The men’ group continues to meet; with Jeff and Jim still absent.
Jeff is working his way through his divorce and has decided that it would be better not to communicate with the group until it was over.
We have heard nothing from Jim in over three months.
Warren is spending some time rolling in the grass with Sally, and is feeling somewhat lonely at times. He is looking forward to sharing his life and time with someone, perhaps Sally.
Everett has made great steps in coming to terms with being himself and being comfortable with how he does things and how he interacts with his wife. He is working at not taking responsibility for her insecurities and confusion.
I spent a week feeling very sick with a cold after his depression. My body did not have enough energy to ward off a cold germ he picked up while visiting the old company’s office, small wander. The discussion between the company VP and myself have come to an end, with the goal of getting a reaction from the company accomplished.
Cory got the work for the large complex; it will stand him in good stead, with a possible three more units to be built.
I helped Derek build his new home along with the fellow who cut and designed the wood inner structure. Derek is getting quite concerned over the mistakes that are occurring in the construction of the house, his wife is taking it all in stride.
Susan and I were invited out to see the house last Saturday and partake in a Barbeque along with some of Derek's associates. Most of the couples, invited to the supper, worked together in the industry and it was quite evident the extent they were driven by their profession.
I will have lunch with Mother tomorrow.
Spent some time with Cheryl, she talked about her frustration with Andrew. He does not seem to be able to put her mind at ease in terms of his commitment to the relationship.
Dana's job seems to be going well; he says that he is getting in a great number of hours and some promotions, more responsibilities along with an increase in pay.
Cory is somewhat frustrated with the new management at the dealership, but will wait till he is on a benefit plan so he can get some dental work done before expressing it to his boss. I suggested that bad bosses are a great incentive to get educated and get a better job. So much for the day, more words later.
Tuesday, June 6
Last few days have been hot, sunny and windy, the weather has been great.
Had a good weekend. Friday was a quiet night; Susan had the evening with her friends.
Saturday was spent at a golf tournament with Derek; later on I had a look at how the construction of his home was progressing.
Spent the next day with Susan, fixed her garage door, had supper and then went for a walk down by the river valley.
Weather and company were great.
I missed Dana's phone call.
I'm feeling quite relaxed at the moment with my life and all that is going on. Susan and I went to a book store on Sunday, I was able to pick up a two volume set on the history of my home town- 1890-19980, I will have to show it to Mom to see what she can remember of the times and perhaps bring back some memories. The boys should like the information about where they came from.
Warren had lunch with Jeff, but they spent the time talking business, no discussion about what is happening in Jeff's life.
I left a message on Nora's voice mail to see how she is getting on. No answer.
It is a bit of worry to me that Jeff has stayed away from the group this long. Warren is sure that he will return when he is comfortable. It surprises me that he thinks that he would be weak if he came to the meeting to talk about what is going on in his life. He is a very determined and singular man when it comes to doing things alone.
Cheryl is making her way through the relationship that she is having with Andrew, I don't know where it will end, but they are moving toward it. The situation with Cheryl being unsure of Andrew is not good for ether one of them. I hope that she gets some clarification soon. If Andrew is not doing any thing indiscreet, than Cheryl has to dig into why her insecurities are threatening her relationship with Andrew.
I saw Everett and his wife at their home for a short time on Monday; they seem to be at ease with each other. Their communication skills will stand them in good stead as they confront these new changes in their life.
Dana took some time off this last weekend to go to the lake with his girlfriend. They are coming out to the reunion in July as far as they know. It will be nice to see them. Cory is spending money on some new clothes, must mean that he has some extra spending cash. I will have to send out some more resumes and cover letters to the aviation companies that are of interest to me.
# posted by A Mens' Group @ 2:06 PM 
