Saturday, July 23, 2005
Life is never all back in order
April 19/00 Wednesday- A great day
Weather is great, plus 18.
I did my final check out on the Cessna 172. I am able to fly it on my own now. Day went fairly well, I still have to work on my listening skills to get what is said over the air. If I am not sure what is being asked, I have to ask if I am not sure. I was quite concerned about the stall and slow flight portion of the flying but my instructor Bill, was very easy on me. I am glad to have it over. I should call my friend, Gerald and go for a flight.
Slowly I am getting in control of my flying and my dreams. The feeling is one of elation and some relief. Now I can get on with enjoying flying and not having to learn something new and do it in front of some instructor, no matter how good Bill is at his profession .I will do some flying for the fun of it.
Last week, was the first time Jeff had made and appearance in the last two months. He showed up during the last half hour to sit in on the discussion. Talk was about work and how each of us was doing in our jobs. Very little was said of what was going on in our own personal lives. Hector spent some time talking with Jeff about the children's feelings and understandings when a couple is splitting up and moving to different houses. I hope Hector understood how much discussion he had to have with his boys so they felt comfortable and included in the events of the day.
Jeff seems to be very in tune with his children. Looking quite tired and lean, Jeff did not talk of what is happening in his life, although he offered a suggestion that his friend, whose wife is leaving would like to sit in on the group to get some help and advice. Rob made the suggestion that this friend would benefit more from a time with Dr. Joe, but he would be welcome to attend.
I played squash with Warren on Tuesday again. We had a good hour of playing with the games getting quite competitive and even. I am feeling quite invigorated by the strenuous activity that is occurring. Hopefully, I will be able to continue to play racquetball with Susan in the following weeks. It seems to be a great way to get rid of the excess energy that is accumulating with my time off. Had a pleasant talk with Matt D and his interest in the services that I can offer him, as a private contractor, in the business. Keith had still not called him after I passed on Matt's name. Service will stand out, I hope.
Events continue as the days go by.
Some days are easy to live with, but there are moments of sheer terror when I wonder if what I am doing really is something sane.
Thursday, April
I spent some time visiting my past business contacts to keep in touch. Now that I am not part of the company they do not have much interest in my services as a private contractor.
This week’s group meeting was quite interesting.
Warren talked about a serious discussion he had with Sally regarding their future. They spent several hours expressing their vision of the future. Warren felt quite comfortable talking about moving on with or without Sally. His birthday is today, it was probably a point that he felt comfortable in making a decision to walk through the door that eliminated the possibility of continuing to do nothing. The two options left are to get back together with Sally or move on with-out her and establish a life with someone else.
Everett has been able to get back into meditating. He said he spent some time talking to his wife about what he was doing and how he envisioned the future. Everett is managing his time for himself, his work and his family. He is feeling quite comfortable in this new part of his life, although he still feels uncomfortable in his gut.
Jeff did not show up, probably his day with his kids?
Hector is moving along in all the decisions that are required to separate from his wife and her subsequent moving into her new home.
I talked about my need not to continue working while I was trying to retire. The third week is turning into a more relaxed time with my energy levels going down.
With my check out on the 172 complete, I continue to feel a great sense of relief. Now, I can get out and do some flying for fun. Hopefully, I can take some of my friends into the air flying. It should be fun flying some distance in this new plane. I can hardly wait.
Peter was able to share some thoughts with a co worker about the direction and how a meeting they were involved was conducted. He was able to express his views quickly and without much anxiety and put it behind him.
The weather has been fabulous for flying over the last several days, plus 18 with a small breeze.
Mother is up in arms about the upcoming family reunion; the cost, the time and the general need not to have it happen. We will get through it. Mom, my son Cory and I are going to my brother’s place for Easter.
Susan is staying home with her grand-son while her daughter and son in law go out of town to get his kids. Susan is in her glory sending time with her grandson. I hope things turn out well for her. She is so special. More than I realize.
Warren suggested that he might sell his house in Edmonton and move his business to Vancouver. It would be a sad time if he chooses to do this, although we would have a good reason to have out group meetings in Vancouver. I am sure that he will visit us whenever he has a chance.
Saturday- late April
The day is bright and sunny, everything is turning green after the nice rain we had Friday. The winds that have been with us for three days have finally calmed down. It is a very nice spring day.
My ribs are finally feeling better after a week of pain. This silly injury reminded me that it sure is nice to be healthy. I feel bad that I had to postpone flying with my niece from the states, but we will do it when she comes out in July.
This is the first full month after leaving my old company. The month has gone quickly. Some of the days go by slowly while others are filled with activity and direction. I have sent in the weekly claim forms that EI have sent to me but I have not received any confirmation that they have accepted me on their lists.
My old company continues to be surprised at my actions in reply to their aggressive statements. I don't know if I will continue to correspond with them, it seems to take a great deal of energy out of me, energy that I am not sure I want to waste on them.
Warren, Peter and I met on Thursday at the coffee shop. The others did not make an appearance. Everett and Hector have been making regular appearances, but Jeff has shown up only once for a short period of time several weeks ago.
Jeff is deeply involved with his new direction in life, divorce from Victoria, getting re-involved with Nora and the boating industry to be able to share his time with us. Warren feels that Jeff will reappear when he is ready to talk about what he is doing and his life is all back in order.
Life is never all back in order.
Hector and his wife have separated with her moving into a new home in the coming weeks. Hector is taking is quite well, I would hope that he now concentrates his time on the children to help them through this period of upheaval.
Susan's daughter and family have been at her home for the past several weeks, causing the creation of countless emotions. The large number of people, the kids from the previous marriage, Holly's growth into motherhood and partnership has certainly tested the family dynamics.
I was able to check out on the new 172 with all its toys. I am enjoying flying this new plane.
Gerald suggested that we go out for a flight next Friday. I marked it in my calendar although I am not sure whether Gerald will make the date.
There are moments of great concern on my part, whether I am doing the correct thing. It would seem to me that it would be easier to be in the main stream of work and life but then I hear what the demands are being made on the people of my old company. I am convinced of the futile nature of such decisions, at least where they concern me and my life style. I am confident that the people out in society can see and truly recognize my values and what I have to contribute to their companies, whether I do it as an employee or as an independent company.
Weather is great, plus 18.
I did my final check out on the Cessna 172. I am able to fly it on my own now. Day went fairly well, I still have to work on my listening skills to get what is said over the air. If I am not sure what is being asked, I have to ask if I am not sure. I was quite concerned about the stall and slow flight portion of the flying but my instructor Bill, was very easy on me. I am glad to have it over. I should call my friend, Gerald and go for a flight.
Slowly I am getting in control of my flying and my dreams. The feeling is one of elation and some relief. Now I can get on with enjoying flying and not having to learn something new and do it in front of some instructor, no matter how good Bill is at his profession .I will do some flying for the fun of it.
Last week, was the first time Jeff had made and appearance in the last two months. He showed up during the last half hour to sit in on the discussion. Talk was about work and how each of us was doing in our jobs. Very little was said of what was going on in our own personal lives. Hector spent some time talking with Jeff about the children's feelings and understandings when a couple is splitting up and moving to different houses. I hope Hector understood how much discussion he had to have with his boys so they felt comfortable and included in the events of the day.
Jeff seems to be very in tune with his children. Looking quite tired and lean, Jeff did not talk of what is happening in his life, although he offered a suggestion that his friend, whose wife is leaving would like to sit in on the group to get some help and advice. Rob made the suggestion that this friend would benefit more from a time with Dr. Joe, but he would be welcome to attend.
I played squash with Warren on Tuesday again. We had a good hour of playing with the games getting quite competitive and even. I am feeling quite invigorated by the strenuous activity that is occurring. Hopefully, I will be able to continue to play racquetball with Susan in the following weeks. It seems to be a great way to get rid of the excess energy that is accumulating with my time off. Had a pleasant talk with Matt D and his interest in the services that I can offer him, as a private contractor, in the business. Keith had still not called him after I passed on Matt's name. Service will stand out, I hope.
Events continue as the days go by.
Some days are easy to live with, but there are moments of sheer terror when I wonder if what I am doing really is something sane.
Thursday, April
I spent some time visiting my past business contacts to keep in touch. Now that I am not part of the company they do not have much interest in my services as a private contractor.
This week’s group meeting was quite interesting.
Warren talked about a serious discussion he had with Sally regarding their future. They spent several hours expressing their vision of the future. Warren felt quite comfortable talking about moving on with or without Sally. His birthday is today, it was probably a point that he felt comfortable in making a decision to walk through the door that eliminated the possibility of continuing to do nothing. The two options left are to get back together with Sally or move on with-out her and establish a life with someone else.
Everett has been able to get back into meditating. He said he spent some time talking to his wife about what he was doing and how he envisioned the future. Everett is managing his time for himself, his work and his family. He is feeling quite comfortable in this new part of his life, although he still feels uncomfortable in his gut.
Jeff did not show up, probably his day with his kids?
Hector is moving along in all the decisions that are required to separate from his wife and her subsequent moving into her new home.
I talked about my need not to continue working while I was trying to retire. The third week is turning into a more relaxed time with my energy levels going down.
With my check out on the 172 complete, I continue to feel a great sense of relief. Now, I can get out and do some flying for fun. Hopefully, I can take some of my friends into the air flying. It should be fun flying some distance in this new plane. I can hardly wait.
Peter was able to share some thoughts with a co worker about the direction and how a meeting they were involved was conducted. He was able to express his views quickly and without much anxiety and put it behind him.
The weather has been fabulous for flying over the last several days, plus 18 with a small breeze.
Mother is up in arms about the upcoming family reunion; the cost, the time and the general need not to have it happen. We will get through it. Mom, my son Cory and I are going to my brother’s place for Easter.
Susan is staying home with her grand-son while her daughter and son in law go out of town to get his kids. Susan is in her glory sending time with her grandson. I hope things turn out well for her. She is so special. More than I realize.
Warren suggested that he might sell his house in Edmonton and move his business to Vancouver. It would be a sad time if he chooses to do this, although we would have a good reason to have out group meetings in Vancouver. I am sure that he will visit us whenever he has a chance.
Saturday- late April
The day is bright and sunny, everything is turning green after the nice rain we had Friday. The winds that have been with us for three days have finally calmed down. It is a very nice spring day.
My ribs are finally feeling better after a week of pain. This silly injury reminded me that it sure is nice to be healthy. I feel bad that I had to postpone flying with my niece from the states, but we will do it when she comes out in July.
This is the first full month after leaving my old company. The month has gone quickly. Some of the days go by slowly while others are filled with activity and direction. I have sent in the weekly claim forms that EI have sent to me but I have not received any confirmation that they have accepted me on their lists.
My old company continues to be surprised at my actions in reply to their aggressive statements. I don't know if I will continue to correspond with them, it seems to take a great deal of energy out of me, energy that I am not sure I want to waste on them.
Warren, Peter and I met on Thursday at the coffee shop. The others did not make an appearance. Everett and Hector have been making regular appearances, but Jeff has shown up only once for a short period of time several weeks ago.
Jeff is deeply involved with his new direction in life, divorce from Victoria, getting re-involved with Nora and the boating industry to be able to share his time with us. Warren feels that Jeff will reappear when he is ready to talk about what he is doing and his life is all back in order.
Life is never all back in order.
Hector and his wife have separated with her moving into a new home in the coming weeks. Hector is taking is quite well, I would hope that he now concentrates his time on the children to help them through this period of upheaval.
Susan's daughter and family have been at her home for the past several weeks, causing the creation of countless emotions. The large number of people, the kids from the previous marriage, Holly's growth into motherhood and partnership has certainly tested the family dynamics.
I was able to check out on the new 172 with all its toys. I am enjoying flying this new plane.
Gerald suggested that we go out for a flight next Friday. I marked it in my calendar although I am not sure whether Gerald will make the date.
There are moments of great concern on my part, whether I am doing the correct thing. It would seem to me that it would be easier to be in the main stream of work and life but then I hear what the demands are being made on the people of my old company. I am convinced of the futile nature of such decisions, at least where they concern me and my life style. I am confident that the people out in society can see and truly recognize my values and what I have to contribute to their companies, whether I do it as an employee or as an independent company.
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